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Do you know what the most frequent command in all of Scripture is?

Do you know the most frequent command in all scripture? To REMEMBER.

The command to remember is said over 550+ times in scripture, and if it’s used that frequently in the word, we should probably take note! We so easily forget what God has done in our lives, do we not?

It’s no surprise that a daily prayer recited by God’s followers for thousands of years called The Shema (Deut 6:4-8) is a passage to help God’s people remember what God has done and to share those truths in everyday life.

Remembering God’s goodness and work in our lives keeps us in the right perspective, no matter the season. It fuels us with worship for what He alone can accomplish.

Let’s explore how we can begin practicing “remembering” together as a couple.

📧 In today’s newsletter…

🔥 Deep Dive: How do we practice remembering together?

⚡️ Challenge: Creating stones of remembrance.

🛠️ Tools: Here are some helpful tools and apps to practice remembering with your spouse.

🎓 Learn: Videos, podcasts, and more to help you develop the practice of remembering with your spouse.

🔥 Deep Dive: How do we practice remembering together?

“The great thing to remember is that though our feelings come and go, God’s love for us does not.” C.S. Lewis

God’s Hand in Your Love Story

Every love story is unique, and as followers of Jesus, we believe that God’s hand is intricately woven into every chapter of our journey together. Reflecting on how God has orchestrated your love story can be a powerful way to recognize His providence and nurture a heart of gratitude.

For us, these moments of reflection often happen during our weekly date nights or annual retreats. For example, this weekend, we celebrated our 16th anniversary by getting out of town and looking back through old photos on our phones from the past couple of years, which sparked many cherished memories. These simple times together remind us of the many ways God has faithfully been at work in our marriage.

We encourage you to start with the little things and take time to remember together over a cup of coffee. Reflect on:

  • How did you meet, and what was your first date like?

  • The feelings during the proposal and the anticipation of what was next.

  • A time when God clearly provided for you financially, spiritually, or relationally.

  • Instances when God provided encouragement and support through a friend or family member during a hard season.

These reflections create a heart of worship and thankfulness for all God has done in your marriage.

God’s Presence in Every Season

Marriage brings us through various seasons, from the mountaintop honeymoon experience to the valleys of losing jobs, family members, and friends. Remembering how God has shown up each season reminds us of His constant presence.

One exercise we’ve found helpful is practicing a listening prayer, where we ask Jesus to reveal where He was in specific moments. As we focus on Him, we listen for His answers, allowing the Holy Spirit to speak through the thoughts that come to mind. This practice helps us remember His presence in hard, difficult, or joyful seasons. Consider asking:

  • God, where were you showing me your love today that I wasn’t aware of?

  • Jesus, what do you want me to learn or know from that season?

  • Father, is there any fear preventing me from fully experiencing you right now?

  • Jesus, is there anything you want me to remember from this specific season of life?

Creating Stones of Remembrance

In the Old Testament, God commanded His people to stack stones as a “stone of remembrance.” These served as memorials to remind future generations of God’s divine provision and faithfulness, as seen in Joshua 4:1-3.

For the Worley household, we created our own “stone of remembrance” with a prayer box. This box sits in our kitchen and holds prayer requests from our family and guests. We place our God-sized prayer requests with dates into the box and pray over them throughout the year.

After practicing this for a few years, we’ve seen God answer incredible prayers, which we mark in the box to remember together as a family. These moments of answered prayers show us His faithfulness and encourage us to continue trusting Him.

Learning to remember is a valuable rhythm to practice together as a couple and even as a family. If you have children, one of your primary roles is to help them become “rememberers.” Start getting into the rhythm of practicing remembrance and reflection with those you love. Use these times to reflect on all that God has done in your life, giving Him all the worship and praise for His faithfulness and great works in your life.

🤵‍♂️ A Note to Husbands: What is one question that you can ask at the dinner table this week to help your spouse and family remember how God has shown up in your lives?

👰🏻 A Note to Wives: What is one memory you can retell to your husband and family this week that showcases the faithfulness of God in your life?

⚡️ Challenge…

Whether it’s a date night going through old photos, creating your own “stone of remembrance”, or maybe practicing a listening prayer – what is one way that you can commit together to remember God’s provision and faithfulness in your marriage this week?

🛠️ Tools…

This fun app called TimeHop creates a time capsule of your photos, videos, and posts from the same day in years past for you to reflect on.

We made our “God is bigger than our box from Hobby Lobby, but here are a few more upscale box options: wooden box, God box, and prayer box.

We are currently capturing our grandma’s story to share how God worked through past generations in our family through a keepsake book called StoryWorth.

🎓 Learn: Read, Watch, Listen

Read: When it comes to developing a conversational relationship with God through listening prayer, Dallas Willard’s classic “Hearing God” is one of the best resources to get you started.

Watch: Conflict Zones, The CIA, and Listening to God where Jennie Allen Interviews Jamie Winship.

Listen: This by far has been our favorite podcast series the past year as Jamie Winship talks about Identity & Listening Prayer in this series. Here are links: Episode 1, Episode 2, Episode 3.

Mike Worley

Mike Worley is passionate about helping couples live out the transforming power of Jesus Christ in everyday life. He and his wife, Holly, co-founded Spark Discipleship with one simple mission: help couples build thriving marriages as disciples of Jesus Christ.

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